Thoughtful About . . . The Journey to Mom

Thoughtful About . . . The Journey to Mom

Over the last few months, a landmark change has come upon me. It started gradually–now and then, out in public. And then it became more common even at home. And now I know it’s here to stay.
My daughter has stopped calling me Mommy and now calls me Mom.
It’s a strange thing in a way, isn’t it? I mean, we all know our grown-up kids aren’t going to keep calling us Mommy. (Though I know plenty of girls who keep calling their father Daddy, the Mommy thing inevitably goes away. Hmmm.) So obviously there will be a transition. But as we change diapers and navigate toddlerhood, as we prepare them for their first days of school, this isn’t really a question any of us ponder too much, right? 
But my daughter, being a mini-me in some ways, actually seems to have put some thought into it. I’d noticed quite a while ago that when she was talking to her friends–especially her older friends–she’d refer to me as “her mom.” Which was obviously fine. But then a few months ago she said something to me…I don’t even remember the conversation. But it was something that, in retrospect, felt as though she was asking permission to change what she called me. I honestly don’t recall the words. Maybe she had asked me if I used to call my mother Mommy, and that led to when I stopped? I don’t know. I guess at the time, it didn’t seem important to remember the exact conversation. But I recall kinda smiling as she walked away. Realizing that my girl is growing up. And loving that she was taking care with this.
And so, Mommy has vanished. And quite often, when I hear her call out, “Mom!” it feels so…deliberate. Almost proud. As though she realizes she’d taken a step toward adulthood, one that she could choose when to take.
There are moments when I feel as though it should make me sad, or at least emotional–a chapter is over, finished. But instead, I feel proud too. I’m not sure I can explain why. Perhaps because in Mom, for us, there’s a new depth to our relationship that couldn’t quite be when she was younger. I love that she sits down and just chats with me. That we rejoice together over stupid things like pumpkin spice coffee creamer and cream cheese. I love that we talk about stories and that as soon as she finishes a book she loved, she shoves it at me and tells me I have to read it too, so we can talk about it and rent the movie.
I love that though there are mom-moments aplenty–the ones where I’m saying, “Go take a shower. Do your math. No, I mean it, do your math. Stop yelling at your brother. Just dry the dishes and stop moaning about it!” there are other moments too. Friend moments. Moments when we laugh together, when we talk about honest-to-goodness things that matter, when I realize that my little girl is growing up into a young woman that I love getting to know.
I guess part of me always wondered, as I wrangled these kids of mine through screaming fits and sleepless nights, what kind of relationship we’d have as they grew up. Well, we’re discovering that now. And though she’s only almost-12 and we’ve still got those teen years ahead of us, I pray that what we’re building now will only get stronger. That these little people I love so much will become big people I respect. That each year, though it brings changes and challenges, will bring a new layer of depth too. Beautiful depth.
Now, interesting will be to see if/when my son makes this change, given that he rarely ever calls me Mommy anyway–he calls me Mama. Will that stick around? Who knows. But I’m sure loving the discovery with these two silly kiddos of mine.
It’s a journey, always, this parenting thing. Nothing ever stays the same for long. But it’s one that I love more, the longer we travel it together. 
Here’s to the road. And to the people who travel it with me.
Cover Design ~ String of Pearls by Melody Carlson

Cover Design ~ String of Pearls by Melody Carlson

It’s been a while since I’ve gone behind the design of a book cover…and since someone asked me about it last week, I figure it’s time for another example. But what cover should I feature?? Always a question–and since I can’t always release a cover publicly when I design it (gotta wait for the author to do so, after all), I’m not always sure when I can feature a cover.

But in this case, there’s no question as (a) it’s a WhiteFire book and (b) it releases October 15! So today we’re going to take a look at Melody Carlson’s String of Pearls, the third book in the Mulligan Sisters Series.

Let’s start by looking at the first two books in the series.

As you can see, we have a theme established for the series. In the foreground we have one of the sisters–starting with Bridget, who joins the Army Nursing Service at the beginning of WWII, and then moving to Colleen in book 2, whose dreams get all tangled up in heartache as she pursues a Hollywood career. In the background of each book, I used a public domain era photograph which I colorized.

On book 3, we knew we wanted Molly, the youngest of the 4 Mulligan sisters. Molly looks a lot like Colleen, so my first challenge was going to be finding a model who could look like the sister of #2. I tried a few different girls but ended up using this one.

Of course, the body wasn’t right–but I liked the face. She bears a nice resemblance to the model for Colleen, coloring’s right, and I loved her smile. And I had already scoped out an image of a 40s style woman with a camera–and Molly loved photography.

I started by just putting the blond’s head as-is on the brunette’s body, but Melody requested some more 40s style hair. So I took this lovely lady’s curls…

Lightened and brightened them, put them on the first blonde’s head, and plunked them both on the brunette’s body, to get this.

But I didn’t want to keep the same coloring on the clothes–especially since I’d recently used another shot of the brunette in a different cover and preserved that red sweater in that one. Here, I decided to go with blue. So I copied the sweater and the skirt, made them new layers, and used the Hue/Saturation option to change them to blue.

But what to use as a backdrop? I tried a few modern photographs behind her–shots of San Francisco streets. But modern photographs just don’t look the same as 1940s photographs, and it gave the cover a whole different feel from the first two books. So I went hunting for photos I could use from the 1940s and eventually found this one.

The only problem with this is that it was going the wrong direction–I needed my lines pointing at my model, not away from her, in order to balance the image correctly. Now, flipping an image is easy-peasy…until you realize that there are signs which are then backwards. *Sigh*. But I just flipped and resized all of those as well.

Then the tricky part–colorizing it. This isn’t my forte, but I’ve been learning how to do it. In general, the method is to create a new layer, set said new layer to a different blending mode–often Overlay, though occasionally a different option works better, just depending on the color being used.

Now, I didn’t bother colorizing the whole photo, just the part visible behind Molly. So it looks a little funny like this, LOL.

I referred to the modern photos of this street to get some color inspiration for the houses, and chose red for the car because it would show up nicely against the dark tones of the black and white photo, and also provide a little pop of color.

Of course, we needed a beautiful sky. Each of the first two books had very bold, rich skies. So I searched for a photo of San Francisco with a gorgeous sunset sky and found this one.

So putting that behind the blank sky of the city, and it all behind Molly, we arrive at our basic design.

The title and series were already designed, so it was a pretty simple matter of plugging those in and adding some shading behind them to make everything stand out. I chose red for the title, echoing that pop of it from the car and the sign. My final step was to add a photo filter action to draw it all together and add a bit more depth to the colors. In this one, I used X-Pro (a filter Instagramers will recognize.) And there we have the finished cover!

So what do you think? Do you like the style that mixes old photos with new? Do you have a favorite from the series?

And if you’re a Melody Carlson fan, definitely go snatch these up! They’re a really interesting look at WWII through a family on the home front.

Word of the Week – Pizza

Word of the Week – Pizza

Sometimes we have to examine those favorite words. Like pizza. Right? I don’t know about your house, but in mine, pizza is a staple. My children adore it. Almost as much as I do. (Hey, I’ve had more years to grow the love…)

So it’s no surprise that the other day, as I informed my boy-o that pizza has two Zs in it, he asked, “But why? I thought it was spelled like Piza. Like maybe that’s where it’s from.”

As it turns out…nope! The origin of the word pizza is a bit of a mystery, but I’ll tell you what I’ve learned.

First off, it can be a bit confusing to check the etymology and see that it’s listed as first recorded in 1934. Odd, considering I’ve seen scans of menus dating from the early 1900s that have pizza on them. What’s up with that??

Well, this is when it entered the English language–as in, was adopted as an English word, not just borrowed. Before that, it was just considered Italian. Kind of like how merci is a word everyone knows, but when we speak it, we know it’s French. The 1934 date isn’t when the deliciousness was created, but rather when English speakers decided it should be a permanent part of our vocabulary (hear, hear!).

But where did it come from? This is where the word-historians aren’t quite sure. Could be, they say, from the dialectal pinza, which is from the Latin “pound, stamp.” (That’s what a 1907 Italian dictionary claims.) Could be of Germanic influence and related to pittz–“cake, pie.” Or another German-borrowed option is pizzo, “morsel, bite.”

Who’s to say which one is right? Regardless, I maintain it’s a perfect food. 😉

Thoughtful About . . . A God Who Loves

Thoughtful About . . . A God Who Loves

As so typically happens, I’ve been letting ideas simmer in the back of my mind that combine my current Bible reading, things I’ve been reading to my kids, and conversations and sermons from church. I love when all these lines cross and combine to lead me to a knew understanding of our Lord.

So at the beginning of summer, I decided I’d break out a new Bible I’ve had sitting there for a couple years–one I requested for my birthday along with another. And I’ve requested another since. (What, some people only have one??) This one is called the So That’s Why! Bible, and it’s a chronological (which is how I found it, when searching for those) Bible that is full of cultural and historical notes–my kind of footnote!

I’m nearly finished Exodus in this Bible now, and going through those early history sections has been so educational, with all the cross-cultural highlights and notes the book provides. Genesis especially is rich in stories from other cultures that bear a resemblance to the ones shared in that first book of the Bible, and it’s hammered home something so important to me.

In all these other stories, you have the same basic kernels–the ones that long ago convinced me they’re telling the same stories, just that they’d been twisted over the centuries. That they took that basic understanding of what happened and then changed things here and there. But no matter how similar some of these stories–the many flood tales, Gilgamesh, etc.–are on the surface, there’s one very key difference between how others cultures told the tales and how the Bible does. And the difference is this:

God loves us.

In all the other ancient societies, the gods are to be feared. They are to be placated. They are not understood. They crave human blood and sacrifice, and they delight in tormenting mere mortals, or playing with them for their own entertainment.

Our God is so very different. Our God shows his love to humanity. He seeks to show us the pure way, the righteous way, the best way. Our God demonstrates mercy, and even punishment is handed down not because He takes Joy in our suffering, but because discipline is a necessary part of discipleship–a part of teaching and learning.

As I read through Genesis this time, I had just recently read some arguments by Christians who are of the mind that this book of the Bible isn’t supposed to be treated as fact, necessarily, but rather as a redefinition for the ancient world of how God really worked through these well-known tales. Now, I’m not making the above argument. I’m merely saying that as I went through Genesis this time, it was with the question of, “How is God teaching His people about Himself through these stories?”

And the answer is what I said above: God loves us.

In church, we’ve been reading Matthew, and my husband asked the question last weekend of “What ‘gospel’ was Jesus preaching? Today, our ‘gospel’ includes the news of His death and resurrection, but that wasn’t a part of his actual teachings to the masses yet, right? So what was this good news? And why was it always accompanied by healing and miracles?”

My answer: God loves us.

This was the awe-inspiring, amazing, unheard-of message that Jesus was preaching. That He was inviting everyone to see anew in the Scriptures of old. This is the whole reason He came, and the reason He spent so much of his time demonstrating God’s love rather than His authority or dominion. Our Messiah didn’t come to conquer nations–He came to show the heart of the Father to the people.

In our homeschool, I’ve been reading a little book to the kids called But Don’t All Religions Lead to God? by Dr. Michael Green. It’s a short book, but it’s packed full with wonderful information on what sets Christianity apart from all the other religions in the world. And the main thing?

God loves us.

No other religion, no other faith, seeks to demonstrate this. None other offers a means for closing the gap between man and God. No other says, “It’s not what you do–it’s what God’s done.”

God loves us.

We know it, and we say it so many times. But how often do we really pause to examine the miracle in the statement? That unlike every other god worshiped in ancient days, unlike every other lifestyle or religion prevalent today, ours has not only a Creator, but a Father.

Thank you, Lord, for loving us so much. It makes all the difference.

Imprint Name Contest!

Imprint Name Contest!

I announced a while ago that WhiteFire Publishing is launching a line for the under 18 crowd. Well, we’re considering having an imprint name for these books–picture books, chapter books, middle grade, and young adult.

So the challenge, if you choose to accept it:

Come up with a name for the imprint!

Things to keep in mind:

  • It would be great if it appealed to some part of the WhiteFire name, but it’s not required
  • It should call to mind an image that we can use as a logo
  • If we can find one that would work for the entire line, that would be best; though if we end up deciding on a different one for the YA line, that’s okay too

FAQ:

Can I submit more than one?
Yes! Submit as many as you like!

When does the contest end?
It will run for 2 weeks, from 9/20/17 – 10/4/17

Who’s the contest open to?
Everyone! All ages and countries welcome, though physical prizes will only be mailed to the US or Canada. Digital prizes are available for all, though!

Will you definitely choose one of the submitted names for your imprint?
No, this contest is not guaranteed. The ultimate decision will be made by the WhiteFire staff.

What happens if the same name is submitted by multiple people and is the one chosen?
See the prize section below.

If you choose mine (or a name directly derived from my submission) what do I win?
Well, fabulous question. Let’s talk about that.

If a name you recommend (or a direct derivation) is chosen for the imprint, you’ll receive

$100 worth of WhiteFire Titles

You can choose which titles you’d like and the format; US or Canadian winners are eligible for either paperback or digital books, or any combination thereof. Non US or Canadian addresses are eligible for digital books.

If by some coincidence multiple people submit the same name and it’s the one chosen, then each winner will receive $75 worth in prizes.

Where to Enter:

You can either enter on the Google form page or right here.