Modern . . . Sick Days

Two contests to remind you of: first, this is the last day to enter for a chance to win Sandra Bricker’s The Big 5-Oh!, a romantic comedy. Next up is Friday’s giveaway for the Amish romance Never Far from Home by Mary Ellis. Check ’em out!

I fully intended to write something more, but I have two kids with colds on my hands, and the wee-est one is feeling rather feverish and in no mood to let Mommy type. Back to regularly scheduled posting tomorrow, when there’ll be another giveaway!

My Friend Mary – Interview and Giveaway

My Friend Mary – Interview and Giveaway

Today we’re welcoming Mary Ellis to come and chat about her latest release, Never Far from Home. For those of you who can’t get enough of Amish romances, you’re in for a treat!

Mary is offering a book to one lucky reader, so as usual, leave your comments below along with a way I can reach you!

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About Mary

Mary Ellis grew up close to the eastern Ohio Amish community of Geauga County where her parents often took her to farmers’ markets and woodworking fairs. She and her husband now live close to Ohio’s largest population of Amish families where they enjoy the simpler way of life.

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About Never Far from Home

Emma Miller is on the cusp of leaving childhood behind and entering the adult world. She has finished school, started her own wool business, and longs for someone to court. When the object of her affection is a handsome English sheep farmer with a fast truck and modern methods, her deacon father, Simon, knows he has more than the farm alliance to worry about. Emma isn’t the only one with longings in Holmes County. Her mother yearns for relief from a debilitating disease, Aunt Hannah wishes for a baby, and Uncle Seth hopes he’ll reap financial rewards when he undertakes a risk with his harvest. But are these the plans God has for this close-knit Amish family? An engaging story about waiting on God for His perfect timing and discovering that dreams planted close to home can grow a lasting harvest of hope and love.

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What’s your latest book?

Never Far from Home from Harvest House Publishers, January 2010.

What’s your favorite part of the story?

My favorite part of the story is a scene where my “second” heroine has a tiff with her husband. It’s very hard for an assertive, opinionated woman to keep her mouth shut even when she knows she should. We don’t always get our way in marriage, even when we know we’re right. Since I’m very much like this character in real life, this scene was great fun to write.

I can imagine! I was like that when I was younger then seemed to revert to my father’s roots and clam up instead. =) What was the hardest part to write?

Without giving away too much of the story, there is an accident scene in the story that was very difficult to write. I wanted so badly to change the outcome, but I knew then it would no longer reflect real life. However, for other “overly-sensitives” such as myself, I softened the scene. I cry over greeting card commercials, some soft drink ads, and always at weddings, even when I don’t know the bride very well.

LOL–opposite me in that respect, but I can certainly appreciate a softer version of an accident scene. Those are always so tough anyway! So what’s your favorite genre to write? To read?

Of course, I love to write Amish romances and I love to read them as well. I also enjoy reading historical romances, cozy mysteries, and romantic suspense.

What would your dream office look like—and what does your REAL writing environment look like?

My dream office would have a view of water—lake, ocean or river—since I find water to be soothing and grounding. In real life, I write in our guest room in front of a window overlooking the backyard. Very nice, but it’s not the beach!

Mmmm, beach. I so dream of retiring to a beach someday. Our family tends toward the Outer Banks of NC. But since I’m not on vacation, back to business. 😉 Is there any one thing or reference you keep handy when writing? Anything you kept around for this particular book?

Since I write Christian fiction, I keep a copy of the Bible on my desk. I use the New Living Translation of The Holy Bible. I also used Storey’s Guide to Raising Sheep by Paula Simmons & Carol Ekarius for the writing of Never Far from Home.

What lessons have you learned through the publication process that you wouldn’t have guessed as a pre-published writer?

I learned how truly long it takes to write a book! When I’m in the middle of a project I must limit my emailing, web-surfing, and blog-posting type of activities. I’m not even on Twitter or Facebook yet, except for my fan page. Before publishing, I used to start each “writing session” with a few games of Free-cell or Solitaire on the computer. I haven’t planned any games in over a year. I do miss it!

Yes, I’m addicted to email and other online stuff, so I can definitely see your point. What are you writing right now?

I just turned in the third and final installment, The Way to a Man’s Heart, of the Miller Family series. And I’ve started a Christmas novella that will be released in early fall of 2010. What Joy it is to write a Christmas story during the season!

I bet! (Readers, I sent her these questions right before Christmas, LOL.) Any upcoming releases we should keep our eye out for?

The Way to a Man’s Heart will be released in July of 2010.

Is there another author who has greatly influenced your writing?

I would have to say Louisa May Alcott. She wrote Little Women in an environment of poverty with a backdrop of the American Civil War. Even though she was surrounded by sorrow and hardship, she still infused Joy and hope into her magnificent story. She wrote when women weren’t allowed to become writers, and submitted her original stories using a male pseudonym. I love all her books, but I treasure my 1906 edition of Little Women.

Oo, I’d treasure that too!

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Thanks for visiting, Mary! Readers, check out Mary’s website at www.maryeellis.wordpress.com.

You can purchase Never Far from Home from ChristianBook or CrossPurposes.

Contest ends 3/4/10. Void where prohibited. Winner will have two weeks to claim their book before another winner is selected.

Thoughtful About . . . Friends

Don’t forget to enter the giveaway for The Big 5-Oh!

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Have you ever paused to take account of your friends? Tried to categorize them? Mentally nudged a particular person from one category to the next? How do you rate them/think of them/judge them? Do you have friends like the ones we see in novels, that gal pal who’s always there to shed light on our darkest moments?

Yesterday I spent the day with one of my oldest friends. As our little girls ran around and played, Amber and I chatted about things like growth and development and homeschooling (things that come up often when you put two young mothers together, lol), our families, our husbands, our goals. And throughout this came a few memories–like the roller skating circuses we used to have in my basement, some of the old jokes that would have us laughing for hours. We yet again fielded questions of “Are you two sisters?” and answered, as we always did, with, “Yep,” even though we share no blood.

Amber is one of those “always” friends in my mind. Her family was in missions for most of her childhood, so while I was home living my normal life in my normal family, she was off in exotic locales being homeschooled while they ministered to gypsies and the underprivileged. Because of that, we only saw each other a few times a year and never talked on the phone. But when we got together–watch out! We had a ton of fun to make up for! In highschool Amber moved back to our area and attended my school, and our moms would be like, “Why don’t you call each other? Get together?” And we’d look at each other and be like, “Oh, I guess we could . . .” but it wasn’t the way we worked. Still, we always knew that we were “always” friends. You know?

I have other friends I used to be closer to, but who have drifted apart. A few of those I’ve had to nudge from the “best” category down to the “passing” category, some all the way into “used-to-be.” A few from back in the day I consider “low maintenance,” because we can go months at a time without talking and then just pick back up. Those are handy in this busy world.

I have my “highschool” friends. I feared falling into having “college” friends, but those remain “constant” even now. I have those friends I made in Annapolis, but I refuse to call them “Annapolis” friends. We might not see each other often, but they deserve the “constant” title too.

Then I started making “writing” friends. I have a ton of these now, and I’m thankful for each and every one. But the ones that moved from mere “writing” friends to critique partners are the dearest to me, because they’ve become real, true, genuine friends, above and beyond writing. Some of those writing friends, who were also just internet friends, I now talk to more than my local friends, more than my own mother in some cases (though I talk to my mom a lot!)

At which point I have to mention Stephanie. We started emailing about writing, but we were also both pregnant at the time, so we’d chat about that too. As the months passed and turned into years, our emails increased and we told each other every passing thought, it seemed, so that we realized simultaneously that this “writing” friend, this “internet” friend had become a “best.” When we met for the second time in September, we joked that we wouldn’t know how to talk without computers between us, but that was no problem. Together with Mary and Carole, our other awesome friends who round out our critique group, we had a fabulous time.

I’m sure I have a point to all this, but I think it’s mostly a reflection of the roles friends play in my life, and how grateful I am for each and every one. It seems like each one has a special place, ministers to me in her own way. And after spending the day with Amber, I just wanted to give a nod to friends old and new. No matter where we met or how much time goes by between chats, you’re all so dear to me. Thanks!

Remember When . . . Manners Were King?

Don’t forget to enter yesterday’s giveaway for The Big 5-Oh!

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One of the most interesting tidbits I’ve come across thus far in my research for my 1784 story is on manners of the day. The Colonial Williamsburg site has a page on the Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation, as transcribed by George Washington at the age of 16 or so.

I’ve read through about half of the 100+ rules of etiquette, and I gotta say, it’s really enriched my understanding of the culture of the time. And explained some things. You know how you get that particular feeling of decorum and elegance from paintings of the time? These rules actually make it pretty clear it wasn’t a trick of the artist. I’m going to give y’all a taste of some of their rules and manners. The spelling and capitalization are all George’s. =) Enjoy!

~In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise, nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet.

~Shift not yourself in the Sight of others nor Gnaw your nails.

~(One of my favorites) Shake not the head, Feet, or Legs rowl not the Eys lift not one eyebrow higher than the other wry not the mouth, and bedew no mans face with your Spittle, by approaching too near him when you Speak.

~Kill no Vermin as Fleas, lice ticks &c in the Sight of Others, if you See any filth or thick Spittle put your foot Dexteriously upon it if it be upon the Cloths of your Companions, Put it off privately, and if it be upon your own Cloths return Thanks to him who puts it off.

~let your Countenance be pleasant but in Serious Matters Somewhat grave.

~Shew not yourself glad at the Misfortune of another though he were your enemy.

~Superfluous Complements and all Affectation of Ceremonie are to be avoided, yet where due they are not to be Neglected.

~Let your Discourse with Men of Business be Short and Comprehensive.

~Undertake not to Teach your equal in the art himself Proffesses; it Savours of arrogancy.

~Do not express Joy before one sick or in pain for that contrary Passion will aggravate his Misery.

There are still a ton more, so maybe I’ll treat you to a few other lessons next week. =)

Winner!

And the winner of Eleanor Gustafson’s The Stones is . . .

Michelle V!

Congrats, Michelle! I’ve already emailed you.