Thoughtful Thursdays

Musings on faith, family, & fiction

Purpose and Legacy
A couple weeks ago, my daughter and I were driving out to meet my parents and grandmother for lunch, and we were talking about what Xoe might want to do after college. She still dreams of writing and illustrating, yes, but she knows it could take a while for that to...
Rearranged
When I was a kid, there was little I enjoyed more than rearranging spaces. There was only so much I could do on my own, of course, but as I got bigger, I loved extending it to furniture, not just toys. I couldn't tell you how many times my mom and I shoved couches and...
One Year
One year ago, on Monday, May 13, 2024, I had my first chemotherapy infusion. A few days ago, on Monday, May 19, 2025, I had my last protein-blocking injection. The last cancer treatment. I am DONE. A couple weeks ago, in mid-April, I got a text from one of my...
How to Have a Conversation: A Primer
We learn as toddlers how to talk. But somehow, many of us are no longer taught how to have an actual, earnest, honest, and respectful conversation. Given the deep divides these days, we need the skill more than ever...and have it less than ever. So today, I'm going to...

Though a novelist by trade, one of the trademarks of my books is the spiritual depth and exploration I includes as my characters work through what it really means to walk out their faith. Faith, in fact, is one of the things I like to ponder most. In these once-a-week articles, I gets thoughtful at the crossroads of faith, family, and fiction.

Thoughtful About . . . Thirteen Things

Thoughtful About . . . Thirteen Things

It's been quite a month. A lot has happened. Some things are up in the air that I thought were solid, other things are solid that had been up in the air. Our home school year has started, and I have two kids in my little classroom this year instead of just one. I'm in...

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Thoughtful About . . . Motivation

Thoughtful About . . . Motivation

First, thanks for all the birthday wishes yesterday--I had an amazing day! Now on we go. =) Sometimes reading the Old Testament can be baffling. We're told that the Lord our God never changes, that He's the same yesterday, today, and forever. Yet when we read about...

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30 Days of Giveaways! ~ Day 11

30 Days of Giveaways! ~ Day 11

Day 10's winner of Ring of Secrets is... Sarah Keimig ! Keep entering all week for a chance at the daily book drawing AND Friday's drawing for winner's choice of one of these two necklaces by Susie Finkbeiner of Inspired Novelties. And for today: Thoughtful About . ....

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Thoughtful About . . . Don’t Touch It

Thoughtful About . . . Don’t Touch It

The Dentist by Gerard van Honthorst, 1622 I can say in complete honestly that yesterday evening was just terrible. As in, took me all night to recover. Why, you ask? Because my daughter has a loose tooth. Now, Xoe has lost four teeth already, and they were FINE. No...

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Thoughtful About . . . Our Reactions

Thoughtful About . . . Our Reactions

First, I'm a guest today on Inkwell Inspirations, musing on how the Lord calms our storms. It's one of my favorite insights (even made its way into Whispers from the Shadows!), so do swing by! The Child Handel by Margaret Isabel Dicksee Now, I'll be honest. I didn't...

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Thoughtful About . . . Being Still

Thoughtful About . . . Being Still

The Dance Class by Edgar Degas It's a crazy-busy week around here right now, with everything from kids' checkups to Xoe's follow-up at Johns Hopkins on Monday. We have ballet rehearsal, ballet recital, I have a book talk on the free night between those...I've got book...

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Thoughtful About . . . Ta-Da, Mommy!

Thoughtful About . . . Ta-Da, Mommy!

Baby at Play by Thomas Eakins, 1876 As a mama working from home with two home schooled kids, one of whom is only kindergarten aged, I know a lot about interruptions. People frequently ask me, "How do you get anything done?" And in answer, I usually have to shrug....

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Thoughtful About . . . What a Week

Thoughtful About . . . What a Week

Phew. It's been a week, that's for sure. A rather long one, with trips to and from Baltimore, worry over my brave little princess, and nothing remotely resembling routine. Praise be to the Lord, elbows heal fast, so Xoe's not in pain except for when she bumps it. But...

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Thoughtful About . . . Thanks

Thoughtful About . . . Thanks

Tuesday night/Wednesday was, let's say, not great. When I went to bed at 11, I'd meant to set my alarm for 5:30 but forgot. I wanted to get up early to write, but I'd been waking up early on my own, so I figured I'd be fine. At 1 a.m., a very distressed "Mommy!" woke...

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Thoughtful About . . . Neat and Tidy

Thoughtful About . . . Neat and Tidy

Anyone who knows me knows this title is not about my house. 😉 As I stood in front of my stove cooking dinner (mark it on your calendar!) the other night, with my head still in my novel (not rare enough to be noted, LOL), I got to thinking. I'd just written an...

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Thoughtful About . . . Readers, Writers, & Reviews

Thoughtful About . . . Readers, Writers, & Reviews

My parents always read to me as a kid. I started writing when I was, oh, six or seven. It took another year or two for me to love reading (myself) other stories as much as I loved creating my own, but I definitely came down with that bug something fierce. And after...

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Thoughtful About . . . A Family of Love

Thoughtful About . . . A Family of Love

I sat here for a good while this morning debating what to write about. It's Holy Week, my favorite time of year. I love reflecting on all He's given us, on His amazing love in giving up His life to save ours. I think I've had some nice insights over the years,...

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Thoughtful About . . . The Nature of Faith

Thoughtful About . . . The Nature of Faith

The Christian Martyrs' Last Prayer, painted 1883 by Jean-Léon Gérôme My church has been doing a study of the book of 1 John leading up to Easter. It's such a rich little book, full of the foundations and mysteries of faith. And as I read it and study it out, it does...

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Thoughtful About . . . Empty Places

Thoughtful About . . . Empty Places

In our home school reading yesterday, we were reading the continued tale of the life of a Prussian missionary to England, George Müller. In the part of the story we got to, he had just gotten married to the sister of a British missionary, and together they had made a...

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Thoughtful About . . . New Projects & Retreats

Thoughtful About . . . New Projects & Retreats

Well, it is nearly time for the event I've been counting down to since last June--a writing retreat with my best friend/critique partner! We're renting a cabin, settling down with our laptops, and taking three whole days (and two partial ones) to do nothing but WRITE!...

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Thoughtful About . . . Computers

Thoughtful About . . . Computers

My computer is going blind. Which is to say, its video card is failing. It's annoying on a good day--it won't play video, crashes any time flash comes up--and kinda terrifying on a bad day when the screen just blinks out and then doesn't recover quite as it should. I...

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Thoughtful About . . . Love

Thoughtful About . . . Love

I know, a predictable topic for Valentine's Day. 😉 But you gotta love the classics, right? I'm amazingly blessed when it comes to love. I found my true love in high school, got married at 18, and haven't regretted a minute of it. In this day and age, I know that's...

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Thoughtful About . . . Potatoes

Thoughtful About . . . Potatoes

The Little Potato Peeler by Albert Anker, 1886 I want to be like a potato. Aside from the fact that they don't have hourglass figures, that is. 😉 But every time I reach for one in dinner prep, it hits me anew. I want to be able to sprout no matter where I am. No...

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Thoughtful About . . . Only Blocks

Thoughtful About . . . Only Blocks

For Christmas, my little guy got some Legos. He's got great fine motor coordination and will sit there and happily build some fun things. But last week, he just couldn't get the pieces to stick together like he wanted. And from happy builder he turned into wailing...

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Thoughtful About . . . Our God Who Art in Outer Space

Thoughtful About . . . Our God Who Art in Outer Space

For some reason that I can't quite explain, 4-year-old Rowyn has decided that Heaven = Outer Space. There is no hesitation in his mind. When he talks about going to Outer Space, it's to drop in on God and say, "Hello." Preferably in a rocket. That, he says, is where...

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Thoughtful About . . . Insecurity and Encouragement

Thoughtful About . . . Insecurity and Encouragement

Lay thy sweet hand in mine and trust in me by Edmund Blair Leighton Sometimes I think the world inside my head is a very strange place. Full of double-think and a pendulum of balance I knowingly employ to keep myself cheerful. A fair amount of rationalization when it...

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Thoughtful About . . . The Time Between

Thoughtful About . . . The Time Between

Waiting by Edmund Blair Leighton My kids are big on holidays (so unusual for a child, I know, LOL). The day after Christmas, they asked, "What holiday's next?" And the same question came on January 2. Several times we've played the Holiday Hop game, naming which comes...

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Thoughtful About . . . Needed Prayers

Thoughtful About . . . Needed Prayers

Little Girl in a Blue Armchair by Mary Cassatt, 1878 Though this isn't exactly the insightful post I'd hoped to start the new year with, it's a necessary one. Yesterday I got a call from one of the ladies in my Bible study group. We have a couples group that meets...

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Thoughtful About . . . Eagerness

Thoughtful About . . . Eagerness

This time of year, if you want a study in eagerness, all you have to do is take a look at children. Okay, if mine are the example, then looking at them anytime will give you a study in eagerness. =) At times, all that anticipatory energy can be exhausting. But...

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Thoughtful About . . . Gifts

Thoughtful About . . . Gifts

I'm happy to say that this year (as opposed to most years), I'm nearly done my Christmas shopping already. I have a few things yet to pick up, but all the tricky ones are handled. I'm feeling on top of things there. Mostly. 😉 And as I talk with my kiddos about the...

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Thoughtful About . . . Looking

Thoughtful About . . . Looking

The Prayer by William-Adolphe Bouguereau  Two weeks ago I brought up callings. And in the responses I got, I realized that I probably should have used different terminology, because while what I've been thinking about does encompass that lofty idea of "my...

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Thoughtful About . . . Our Callings

Thoughtful About . . . Our Callings

Christus bei Maria und Martha by Allessandro Allori, 1605 What's your calling? A few simple words, but a whole world of meaning, isn't it? To what has the Lord called you? It doesn't have to be something grand. He could have called you to accounting. To farming. He...

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Thoughtful About . . . Taking Responsibility

Thoughtful About . . . Taking Responsibility

Ironing Women by Ivana Kobilca It's so easy to point fingers, isn't it? From something as small as "Look what you made me do!" to the bigger "Don't blame me--I voted for the other guy." This is a problem I've recognized in myself for years--not so much in politics,...

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Thoughtful About . . . Covered by Love

Thoughtful About . . . Covered by Love

Whisperings of Love by William-Adolphe Bouguereau, 1889 8 And above all things have fervent love for one another,for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”~I Peter 4:8 I just read these words in my daily reading time and they struck quite a chord.  Perhaps...

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Thoughtful About . . . Birthdays and Last Chapters

Thoughtful About . . . Birthdays and Last Chapters

My little girl just turned 7 on Tuesday, and we had her party on Sunday. Both were pretty awesome days, even if it is a little hard to believe that my baby is SEVEN. How did that happen??? 😉 And so, because today I'm hoping to finish up Whispers from the Shadows so...

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Thoughtful About . . . Nothing Less

Thoughtful About . . . Nothing Less

Par-tay! (Also known as Luncheon of the Boating Party by Renoir, of course) Last week in church, in the course of our conversation in class time, one fella said something that struck me as so very true: God doesn't want to bless us a little--He wants to bless us...

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Thoughtful About . . . The Busy Month

Thoughtful About . . . The Busy Month

You know how some people never set goals for December because it's so busy with Christmas stuff? That's how my October has become. First weekend is Octoberfest at my family's farm, second weekend is our awesome family reunion, third weekend is my girl-o's birthday,...

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Thoughtful About . . . Blessings

Thoughtful About . . . Blessings

Degas's The Millinery Shop - don't ask me what this has to do with my topic today, LOL. I guess hats are a blessing? Yesterday as I emailed my best friend, I shared with her a little sermon I've been preaching to myself all week. The subject? Blessings--and how we're...

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Thoughtful About . . . Expectations

Thoughtful About . . . Expectations

High Expectations by Arthur John Elsley Tricky things, aren't they? Expectations. On the one hand, we're told to expect great things, especially from God. On the other hand, they can lead to disappointment. Take, for example, these two opposite quotes: I don't have...

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Thoughtful About . . . Serving Others

Thoughtful About . . . Serving Others

At the beginning of August, I blogged about the trip we took to Texas and how it opened the door for us to start teaching our kids about volunteering and helping others wherever they see a need. Well, when we got home we talked to our church about starting a monthly...

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Thoughtful About . . . Not Ourselves

Thoughtful About . . . Not Ourselves

7 But we were gentle among you, just as a nursing mother cherishes her own children. 8 So, affectionately longing for you, we were well pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God, but also our own lives, because you had become dear to us. ~ I...

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Thoughtful About . . . Redeeming the Days

Thoughtful About . . . Redeeming the Days

8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), 10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord. 11 And have no fellowship with...

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Thoughtful About . . . Back to School!

Thoughtful About . . . Back to School!

I had a nice, insightful post planned for today. Filled with brilliance (ahem) and thought and pondering a scripture that jumped out at me. I was just beginning to delve into the contemplation required for it when an adorable little face appeared beside mine....

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Thoughtful About . . . Books and Smiles

Thoughtful About . . . Books and Smiles

First off, I'm guest-blogging today with Laurie Alice Eakes, talking a bit about the fun history of historic Annapolis, and giving away a copy of Love Finds You in Annapolis, Maryland. Hop on over and leave a comment for a chance to win!...

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Thoughtful About . . . Stalled Dreams

Thoughtful About . . . Stalled Dreams

A Favor by Edmund Blair Leighton I've always liked August. It holds my birthday, after all, and has traditionally had lots of other fun things going on. But on the other hand, it's the end of summer. The start of school. For any household with kids, August signals a...

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Thoughtful About . . . Lessons

Thoughtful About . . . Lessons

When I came up with the idea of the Culper Ring Series, I didn't have any great themes in mind. I just liked the premise, and soon got hooked on the characters. The plots were dictated largely by history. And I was rather surprised to release the themes ended up...

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Thoughtful About . . . What You Put In

Thoughtful About . . . What You Put In

My sister recently talked me into joining her zumba class, something I've resisted when she mentioned it months ago. Why? Because I prefer my humiliation to be private, and exercising and I have a love-hate relationship that's heavier on hate than love, LOL. But I...

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Thoughtful About . . . My Eyes on the Prize

It's a saying pretty much everyone understands, I'd think. "Keep your eyes on the prize." Keep your focus on the thing you're aiming at. The finish line. The trophy. The certificate of achievement. The check-off of your Bucket List. Keep going. Keep reaching. Keep...

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Thoughtful About . . . Ups and Downs

I've had a hectic few weeks, and in some ways it's been a real roller coaster ride. I got good news just to have it nullified two days later. I've had to come to grips with a few things, put some things aside for a while--and as someone who always hopes and works for...

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Thoughtful About . . . Ring of Secrets

Thoughtful About . . . Ring of Secrets

I got it! I got it! My cover for Ring of Secrets has arrived in a share-able version, so naturally today must be spent in sharing (assuming you haven't already seen it on Facebook). Exciting!!! Also exciting is that you can pre-order them on Amazon (please "like" the...

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Thoughtful About . . . Fire

With the fires raging in Colorado, this is a topic on a lot of minds this week. As someone who used to have a major phobia of fire, wildfires are a terrifying thing to me, and my prayers go out to all those affected, both residents and the brave men and women fighting...

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Thoughtful About . . . The Spirit

The other day I was reading Romans 8 . . . and coming to the conclusion that it's one of my favorite chapters in the Bible. I know I've read it many times before, but it just hit me how much is in this one. And how amazing it is that we get to apply it to our lives. I...

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Thoughtful About . . . Rejection

 Now hope does not disappoint,because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.  ~Romans 5:5 Rejection. In the writing industry it's something we all face, and so it's something that I've written about before....

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Thoughtful About . . . When You’re Called

Thoughtful About . . . When You’re Called

The advent of summer vacation means that, even though I'd love to be out with my parasol promenading through nature a la the Claude Monet painting here, I'm glued even more to my computer. Trying, trying to get caught up on writing, editing, and design. Trying to get...

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